God is so faithful! He loves me and makes sure I know He hears me so much more than I give Him credit for. Sisters, the journey of singleness is beautiful and challenging all at the same time. We have liberties and boundaries that are uniques to this season of our lives. Somedays I am grateful for the portion, others I would trade it in quicker than you can say, “Would you like fries with that?” One thing that is consistent however is that God wants my perspective to be ever bent to giving Him glory out of my life.
I find that the more I harp on the boundaries and limitations of my singleness, that real talk, protect me and glorify God, I allow the enemy of my soul to paint a picture that God is less good or that I am doing something wrong. Both are not true. God IS good, and I am NOT doing anything wrong. That is not to be confused with perfection… I am far far away from prefect, but I am not practicing habitual in, glory to God. My singleness, right now, in 2019, is most glorifying to God RIGHT NOW, or I would have a different GOD-ordained situation. If He believes I give better single, I pray more single, I serve more single, and if that is what’s required for the Kingdom right now, guess what? I’m going to be single until Management says otherwise.
Fighting to hold right perspective is crucial to successful singleness. I literally have to die to self so I feed the flame of living missional for God with true contentment. “But Jerr, what about those long cold wintery nights alone?” Girl, get a weighted blanket and take yourself to sleep! It is hard, I know! I been in this for a long minute! But guess what? Us repeating the boundaries only make us sad, so lets refresh ourselves with the benefits!
“7 For I would that all men were even as I myself. But every man hath his proper gift of God, one after this manner, and another after that. 8 I say therefore to the unmarried and widows, it is good for them if they abide even as I. 34 There is difference also between a wife and a virgin. The unmarried woman careth for the things of the Lord, that she may be holy both in body and in spirit: but she that is married careth for the things of the world, how she may please her husband. 35 And this I speak for your own profit; not that I may cast a snare upon you, but for that which is comely, and that ye may attend upon the Lord without distraction. 39 The wife is bound by the law as long as her husband liveth; but if her husband be dead, she is at liberty to be married to whom she will; only in the Lord. 40 But she is happier if she so abide, after my judgment: and I think also that I have the Spirit of God.” 1 Corinthians 7
Sis! We get to be used by God no holds barred! We get to be used without distraction! We get to be used without limitations! I can hear about 5 of you all saying, “Well limit me, lol.” But really, God is good, and He knows what He is doing. He loves you and He created you. Do we really think we know what is better for us than the One who created us?
Let me encourage you how I encourage myself. In August, while feeling the weight of the wait, I had to find a way to get out of my funk. I wrote out a confession and said it over my life about my SEASON of singleness. Here it is:
I pray this encourages you sis! The journey is challenging and beautiful. Refresh yourself of the benefits of your portion. Stop praying away your uninterrupted time in life where it is just you and Jesus. Let God be God. If it is His good and perfect will for you and me to marry and become mothers, and raise little God-fearing humans, we will. In His time, we will.
Go take a look at From: God To: the Not-Yet-Married (https://refreshhercourse.blog/2019/11/22/from-god-to-the-not-yet-married/) and be encouraged to respond in faith and faithfulness to our Good Good Father.
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